The following Q&A is part of Outs Dating PrEP Season 4, where prominent LGBTQ+ figures share dating tips and insights for finding self-love and romance. Watch the full series on Out.com/DatingPrEP.If love is a game, then winning it might come down to asking the right questions and no one knows that better than Anania Williams.The 25-year-old genderqueer drag artist and Emerson College musical theater grad is the razor-sharp host of Gaydar, the viral quiz show turning queer culture into a street-corner spectacle. Armed with a mic, a quick wit, and a perfect cut crease, Williams has quizzed pop stars and politicians alike grilling Rene Rapp and Chappell Roan on famous lesbians, coaxing Lucy Dacus into doing gay math, and getting Michigan Governor Gretchen Whitmer to name her favorite gay bars in Lansing.But beneath the beat and the punchlines is a person deeply familiar with vulnerability onstage, online, in front of a camera, and especially in love.In this Q&A, we flip the script and ask the sexually-fluid star the questions. From dating apps to drag projects, from self-doubt to stretch marks, they reflect on building confidence, embracing cringe, and why intimacy often starts with letting people see the mess before the magic. Because when youve made a career out of putting others in the hot seat, the most revealing answers just might be your own.OUT: Whats your relationship status?Anania Williams: Im in a relationship. Im taken.How do you keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship?Its a matter of honest communication at any given moment. Theres no time where I feel like I need to lie or bend the truth with him. We find ways to bring up confrontation in a healthy way, make time for dates again, and try to surprise each other. I love the novelty in dating someone I dont necessarily gravitate toward the monotonous, repetitive kind of thing.What does intimacy and personal space look like for you?My last love language on the list is physical touch. But I love being around my partner. Its like can we hang out and play a video game together? Work on our own separate things? Help with a drag project? Thats how I receive love best. But I do value my personal space and my independence and my alone time.Your humor is a huge part of Gaydar. How does it show up in your relationships?I owe Gaydars success not just to myself, but to the whole team Brooke Finegold, the writer, Amelia Montooth, the director, everyone on the executive side. It takes a village.In dating, I lead with humor. Its a big part of who I am. I want people to feel comfortable, and Ill crack a joke any chance I get. Its my love language. I want someone who at least tries to be funnythey dont have to be funnier than me, but I cant with people so up their ass they cant take a joke.How important is humor in a relationship?Its paramount. The people I love the most in my life are the ones I can laugh with. Thats everything.Whats your most chaotic first date story?The first time someone actually took me on a date before I hooked up with them, they brought me to this bar in the middle of Boston. We went back to my tiny apartment. We do the one-two you know, we bump uglies, choke the chicken and afterward, were lying there in the post-coitus glow and he points at my stretch marks and goes, Why are you hurting yourself? Needless to say, I never saw that person again. It did not feel good.And your most iconic date?For New Years Eve, me and my boyfriend went to Saratoga Springs for no reason. We just got a little cottage up there. It was great.Where do you like to go on a first date?Im an activities person. I also like the movie theater as a first date, especially if its a dinner-and-a-show kind of situation. That way you spend time together and have something to talk about afterward. First dates can be as simple as a walk in the park or as planned as a play anything where you're not pulling shit out of dinner air.How do you usually meet people?When I was back on the market, it was usually dating apps. I feel like Im approachable in person, but I look like a friend. Im not like a sex symbol usually. Or if I am, Im in drag and I dont want to be touched. Theres a lot of layers going on waist down, and I think I like to keep those there.How do you build confidence before a date?Everything is a stage, and I kind of got over my stage fright when I was younger. Now, if I get nervous, I just acknowledge it. Thats the big shift I used to never admit I was anxious. Now Im like, okay, Im anxious. And I do whatever I need lay down, get a snack, whatever works.How did you grow into the confident person you are today?Im really lucky to have a strong support system. Ive adopted pieces of confidence from each of them. If I need the confidence of a friend, I ask myself how they would go through it. Sometimes you just have to make yourself believe otherwise.What advice do you have for people afraid of being cringe when expressing their relationship needs?I love people that are cringe. I love cringe because it just means people are being themselves. Id rather someone be cringe and present than constantly filtering before they speak. Its easier to be your authentic self than to always try to predict what will give you the desired result.Whats your take on sexual health in queer relationships?As a functioning adult, you have to take sexual health seriously. Im in a committed relationship and I still get tested. Theres so much stigma around it, but not knowing can be just as dangerous as knowingly spreading something. We need to be adult about it.Any last words for queer folks who feel love is harder to find these days?Thats something I had to mature into. I had to work on the negative self-talk that said I didnt deserve love. As soon as that faded and I started loving myselfmy body, my humor, who I want to bethat doubt eased. Love is there. It will find you. The dating pool might be smaller or more complicated, but its definitely there.This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity and length.