When Netflix premiered The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On in 2022, viewers watched straight couples face a tricky question: Will you marry me, or walk away?In 2023, the streamer spun off a bold new experiment in The Ultimatum: Queer Love, which featured five LGBTQ+ duos who swapped partners for trial marriages, then reunited to decide if theyd commit forever or call it quits.Over ten dramapacked episodes, one partner issued an ultimatummarry or move onand the candidates moved in with someone else, blurring lines of romance, identity, and selfgrowth.After a fiery reunion special, only one pair stayed engaged.Now that Netflix has announced season 2, lets catch up with the original castwhere they started on camera, what happened behind the scenes, and where their love stands today.Yoly & Mal: A chosen family derailedSee on InstagramYoly, haunted by her feelings for Xander, still accepted Mals wedding proposal. However, continued rumblings about trust and honesty unraveled their bond.Their finale I do rang hollow, and both acknowledged theyd rather be friends than spouses. Eventually, even that fizzled.Where are they now?See on InstagramYoly dove into a dating me erasolo cooking videos, dogmom adventures, and, in November 2023, soft-launched her new partner, Domenick Flores, whom she still dates as of May 2025.See on InstagramHer Instagram is a tapestry of travel vlogs, Pilates classes, and sunset kisses with her new love. See on InstagramMal, ever the romantic, forged an unbreakable family friendship with Lexi, FaceTiming her daily. See on InstagramShes deeply involved in community organizing, streaming self-care tips, and introducing us to her new girlfriend, Sammy Picone.Tiff & Mildred: Gaslighting and glowupsSee on InstagramTiff, an LGBTQ+ coach hopeful, asked Mildred, a devoted mother and Zumba instructor, for marriage, despite repeated blowups over communication and Tiffs role in Mildreds sons life.Their trial pairing with other partners only magnified tensions, and a revealing reunion unveiled an alleged domestic dispute, culminating in Tiffs dramatic exit. No vows, no healingjust headlines.Where are they now?See on InstagramTiff harnessed the drama into creative ventures, including co-hosting the Fweebs Podcast, launching Cameo shout-outs, and speaking at Pride events coast to coast. Theyre single, thrifting vintage looks, leveling up in web design studies, and advocating for domestic violence awareness. Their Instagram is a mix of motivational reels and cameo appearances. See on InstagramAfter losing their dog, Shylo, they introduced us all to their new dog, Bucket, a few months ago. See on InstagramMildred retreated from the spotlight after socialmedia backlash, resurfacing only for Zumba livestreams and occasional healing through dance posts.Although Mildred hasnt returned to mainstream platforms, shes reportedly attending local fitness classes and focusing on her sonproof that stepping away can be part of ones own ultimatum to survive and thrive. She told Netflix Tudum that shes not ready for anything serious and enjoys being single.Xander & Vanessa: Split paths, thriving soulsSee on InstagramVanessa, a fierce influencer, and Xander, a Hawaiibased PT and coach, were the only couple to say no on their Ultimatum Day. Vanessas fear of losing herself clashed with Xanders desire for partnership.Even though they had a sweet moment together during the reunion that seemed as though theyd continue in friendship, the two have slowly become more estranged. Where are they now?See on InstagramVanessa, who was dubbed the villain on the season, decamped to L.A., embracing a solo era of European backpacking, luxury brand collabs, and living her best life.See on InstagramIt appears that she is currently single, despite some rumored relationships over the years.See on InstagramXander, meanwhile, stayed in Hawaii. She launched her physical-therapy practice, studied to be a yoga instructor, and even weighed out a move to San Diego before deciding to stay put. See on InstagramIn a photo collage reconnecting with the cast from the show, she said she would do it all over again just to be where she is now.Rae & Lexi: From I do to I dontSee on InstagramLexi, the confident content creator, laid down the law with Rae, a softspoken software engineer, demanding a yesorno answer about marriage. In their trial marriage, Raes chemistry with Vanessa sparked jealousy, but ultimately, Rae proposed to Lexi in a candlelit finale. Lexi tearfully accepted, vowing to build a future together. Yet fans cringed as Lexis micromanaging clashed with Raes need for emotional space, setting the stage for a rocky reunion.By reunion day, the engagement ring had already been shelved.Where are they now?See on InstagramLexi shifted gears postshow into fulltime influencing, partnering with wellness brands, sharing weightlifting clips, and launching a relationship with photographer Kristin Zancanelli (a.k.a. Zanc), whom she engaged in March 2024. Lexis content now celebrates queer love with floral ring selfies and workout duets. See on InstagramRae, meanwhile, traded Orange County for Los Angeles and doubled down on personal empowerment. @raelyn_csWhy is her drink order always better than mine #fyp #funny #happyhour #drinks #coupleThe former fiance boasts a thriving career as a software engineer, globetrotting TikToks, and weekly therapy sessions to unlearn peoplepleasing patterns. Shes now in a relationship with talent manager Caitlin Kearney.Sam & Aussie: The queer couple still going strongSee on InstagramSam, an optimistic social worker, confronted Aussie, a nonbinary artist wrestling with past trauma, demanding a ring or a breakup.Their trial marriages tested Aussies boundaries, as well as Aussies journey through gender identity exploration, and anchored their bond. In a surprise finale, Aussie accepted Sams proposal, promising to heal and grow together.Where are they now?They remain the only couple from Season 1 to still be engaged, prioritizing their personal journeys over wedding plans. See on InstagramOn Instagram, Sam shares Aussies leatherpunk lookbooks and wellness checkins, while Aussie chronicles nights out in Loewe boots and gendereuphoric fashion experiments. Aussie credits Sam for allowing them to explore their identity, and in return, has coached Sam through familyorigin work and somatic therapy. See on InstagramAlthough they havent set a date, theyve locked down one detail: only Tiff and Vanessa get wedding invites.Only one ring leftand a fresh ultimatumSam and Aussies continued engagement proved that sometimes a bold ultimatum can blossom into a true partnership. The rest have scattered into new relationships, careers, and creative projectseach writing their own happilyeverafter, whether single, partnered, or soulfully solo.With season 2 on the horizon, six new queer couples will test loves boundaries all over again. Will Netflixs next batch finally produce a second success story? Or will more hearts be broken on the path to marriage?One things certain: well be here, popcorn at the ready, to track every ring, breakup, and softlaunch in the queer love multiverse.