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TikToker claps back after harsh criticism of his personal 'Grindr Wrapped' and we're cheering
After going viral for his putting his own personal "Grindr Wrapped" on TikTok, Joshua Fox (@jshfx) has made a follow-up video explaining how he collects his data and defending his hookup habits after receiving harsh criticism.In the video, the TikToker posts a comically long list of all of the men hes ever hooked up with on Grindr, including his ex-husband who he met on the app.It all starts with this list, Fox explains. Basically, every time I meet someone I put in a little note in my phone of like the name and location and that, and then when I get home, I go to my laptop, then I just update this spreadsheet.He said that he charts all of his Grindr hookups he slept with 84 men in 2024 but doesnt always get the mens names so instead he uses descriptors like Muscley Japanese, Sweet Jake, Tacky & Drunk, and Older Random. His hookups really picked up speed after his husband left him three years ago and he started seeking outside validation.@jshfxReplying to @toadd The list of men ive met up with #grindr #gay #gaycultureFox explained that the most important tab in his chart is the emotion he was feeling at the time of a hookup. A lot of the time Im meeting them up because Im depressed, and when Im at my worst I meet multiple people in one day.After meeting up with six men in one day his therapist said that he should start journaling and asking myself why am I doing this?While Fox has received harsh comments from viewers, charting his hookups has helped him understand his motivations more and hes proud of how much hes grown. Theres been a lot of judgment in the comments from people saying Im an embarrassment to the gay community and I should be ashamed of myself, but Im not, he said. Im ashamed of how long it took me to realize why I was stuck in this kind of destructive cycle. I was seeking validation from all of these random men, but Im also proud that Im being so open about this because nobody is and so many other gay men are stuck in this same cycle, but no one talks about it so thats why Im doing these videos.Fox also writes notes after each hookup, explaining that there was a day when he didnt finish. There were also notes about the men he slept with like, Avoid gym for a while, Height doesnt equal hung, Inexperienced but sweet, and Didnt douche thoroughly all important information!Wed all probably be horrified if our hookup app data was put out there for public combustion but Fox said its worth it if it helps people.Thats why I agreed to have my personal diaries turned into a book documenting the last couple of years because I know it will help people and it already is helping people. So maybe the people judging me, they should be the ones ashamed of themselves for being so closed-minded and not realizing that hey, people have different struggles, people have different coping mechanisms for things, and fk were not all perfect.Fox's book What You Into is currently available as an ebook on Amazon.
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