Strap-ons and other sex toys can seem totally intimidating, but they really aren't!Ah, so the time has come. Maybe youve been eying them in secret online. Maybe youve never even thought about them. But its inevitable in a queer relationship, strap-on use is going to come up.While these toys can seem totally intimidating, its not really too complicated to get started. Sex toys dont have to be awkward AF. If you want to give strap-ons a try, check out the following tips so you feel less lost. (Plus, you can even send them to your partner as a little nudge to let them know where your thoughts are headed.)1. Explore the whole wide world of dildosThere are so many dildos in the world. Like, an absurd and exciting! amount.Adventure in your favorite sex shop or go online and find one, or a few, that seem right to you. Starting small could be a good call if your partner has never been penetrated with something other than fingers before, but be sure to talk it out to see what makes the most sense for everyone involved. After all, are you going to go bright and vibrant, or natural tones? So many choices.2. Find a cozy harness that fitsYour second decision is picking a harness. While its appealing to go for something flashy, make sure you find one that fits. A harness thats adjustable is best so that you dont have to buy a new one if you gain or lose a few inches. Focus on comfort, at least for the first time, to avoid squeezing yourself or having it fall off in bed.3. Play around with the strap-on to get comfortable with itStroll around in the strap-on like nothing is even happening. Its totally hilarious, and itll help break the ice so you and your partner(s) feel used to having the strap-on in your lives. Even if it isnt in a non-sexual way, just having the strap-on within your line of sight will help silence some jitters and make you both feel less like you have a strange, foreign object in bed with you.4. Dont worry about getting it perfect the first timeEven though all of us want to be totally perfect in bed 100 percent of the time, you have to be able to give yourself a break. Its your first time trying out a strap-on, and only practice makes perfect. Dont kick yourself if you have to try a few different positions or start and stop. Youre both learning how to do this, together.5. CommunicateCommunication is always key, no matter what kind of sex youre having. Ask your partner how what youre doing feels, as its way more difficult to tell whats going on down there than is if youre using your mouth or hand. Dont just rely on body language to tell you if youre making a mistake!6. Be open about your feelingsMaybe you loved the strap-on, and your partner hated it. Maybe you hated it, and they loved it. Maybe you feel the same way. The only way youll know if the strap-on should become a regular part of your routine or reserved for special occasions (or stored in the drawer with the other sex toys you werent into) is by talking about it.Be open about your feelings, and make it clear that no ones feelings are going to be hurt if you feel differently about your new toy. After all, its you that matters in your sex lives, not just the adventure of trying something new. Plus, theres so much more you can try if you decide a strap-on isnt right for you!