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10 strap-on struggles that are way too real
Strap-ons are life.Ask any couple in which both partners have vaginas! Nothing makes you realize how unnecessary flesh penises are like buying a strap-on of your own in whatever color, shape, and size you and your partner desire! What a time to be alive! But in all seriousness, couples of any orientation and gender can enjoy strap-on sex. For people with penises, strapping on another dick has to be one of the hottest types of sex out there. Yet despite the bedroom joys it can bring, becoming besties with a strap-on can take time, practice, experimentation, and even some epic fails. Yes, getting used to having sex with one can feel awkward. So whether you're a strap-on newb or a dildo-wielding vet, these are 10 strap-on struggles that are likely to feel way too real.1. Selecting your dickDicks are bountiful. Which one is right for you? Dildos are available in small, large, black, brown, purple, rainbow, with testicles, and without testicles. Selecting your dildo can be overwhelming. Take your time. Bring your partner with you if youre in a relationship. And if you can afford it, buy more than one. Collecting dildos is so much more fun than collecting stamps.2. Strapping on the harnessWhile some strap-ons come with a harness attached, typically, now that youve picked out your dick, youre going to need a harness to match. Babeland is a great queer-friendly shop to select a harness. From kinky lace-up leather to basic elastic harnesses! Just dont expect it to fit perfectly the first time you slide it on (thats what the straps are for). Take some time alone adjusting your harness, but come (hehehehe) prepared to adjust your harness as needed while getting it on.3. Learning to humpAs a bisexual woman, I always took humping for granted until I started having strap-on sex. (Kudos to people with penises, because maintaining a good rhythm and speed while penetrating your partner is hard work.) Your first few times having sex while wearing a strap-on might be awkward as you find your flow. This is normal and why its crucial to date partners who are understanding. To prepare for your first-time fucking someone with a strap-on, practice humping alone in your bed (I even practiced on a Fleshlight).4. Switching positionsYou finally mastered the missionary position, and all of a sudden your partner wants to get on top. Hot! However, when she tries to flip over, the dick accidentally slips out. It happens, and switching positions becomes easier with practice, so just keep having sex.5. Finding the best pornWatching strap-on porn is a wonderful way to learn how to use yours and watch how its done. That being said, mainstream porn that shows fast and furious strap-on sex between straight women isnt the most accurate teacher. The ethically-made and queer-friendly Crash Pad Series is perfect for viewing realistic and accurate depictions of queer sex with strap-ons.6. AnalSince the rectum isnt self-lubricating, making love to someone in the butt with your strap-on can be more delicate than vaginal or oral sex. A strap-on can indeed feel like part of your body, but since they dont have nerve endings, first-time strap-on anal can be more difficult than other forms of sex. You dont want to accidentally hurt your partner, so communication is crucial.7. Selecting the right lubeWe talk about dildos and harnesses more than we discuss the third part of the equation: lube. Its crucial to remember that different sex toys and situations require different lubricants. For instance, silicone breaks down silicone, so if your dildo is made of silicone, opt for water-based lube. If youre using condoms with your strap-on, avoid anything oil-based, as such lubes arent latex-friendly. That means if youre using condoms, no coconut oil or anything out of your kitchen cupboard for you. Head to your local adult shop for something store-bought.8. Connecting with your cockAsk anyone familiar with using a strap-on. They can become part of you and feel just as real as a flesh penis. It takes a little bit of time to connect with your new cock, but its an important relationship to invest in. After you buy a new strap-on and before you use it with a partner, spend some time wearing it around the house and masturbating with it. Stroke that cock!9. Dealing with breakupsOne of the saddest parts about a break-up (aside from losing the person, of course) is figuring out what to do with your sex toys. Strap-ons often become a vital part of a relationship. When one ends, you may feel conflicted. Do I toss away this beautiful sex toy that feels like a part of me? Or do I keep it, with the understanding that it might bring up emotional memories? Often, new partners are less than excited to use a strap-on thats been a part of a previous relationship. But you know what that means? You get to go shopping!10. To buy, or not to buy a new strap-on with a new partner?So you're over you're heartbreak and now you're heading toward intimacy with someone new. Great! But does that also mean you need to spring-clean your naughty drawer, too? Listen we get it, a good strap ain't cheap. So, here's the real tea. With good hygiene, proper, thorough cleaning, and the use of condoms, you can technically use an old strap-on with a new partner, it's the emotional side, you have to deal with. That means having that awkward conversation about what they want when it comes to your sex toy protocol.
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