Now that were finally giving people the space they need to be open about their gender identities and sexual preferences, were learning theres a lot more to it than we may have initially thought.Theres a lot of confusion and misinformation being spread about various identities, and sometimes its hard to get into the nitty-gritty of whats true, whats not, and how to be respectful of everybody along the way.Among the terms gaining traction over the last decade or so is agender, which people often confuse for either nonbinary or asexual, which are not all mutually exclusive.Keep reading for some information on what agender is, what its not, how it relates to similar terms and how you can support the agender community.What is agender?Being agender is defined as of, relating to, or being a person who has an internal sense of being neither male nor female nor some combination of male and female or of, relating to, or being a person whose gender identity is genderless or neutral.Some people who identify as agender say they have a lack of gender or refer to themselves as gender-neutral, and it falls under the umbrella terms regarding nonbinary and transgender individuals. How is agender any different from nonbinary?There are a lot of similarities between being agender and being nonbinary, and agender is an umbrella term as it is. Part of the confusion stems from both gender identities rejecting the idea of the binary spectrum that says people have to be either male or female in their gender.However, people who are nonbinary usually view themselves on a wider spectrum of gender and reject societal norms more than anything. Agender people, on the other hand, are more apt to remove themselves completely from the gender spectrum or the gender binary. Is agender the same as transgender?The same as how transgender and nonbinary can wrongfully be confused, agender and transgender are not mutually exclusive. Transgender individuals do not align with the sex assigned to them at birth, and often undergo rigorous hormone therapy and painful surgical processes known as gender reassignment surgery to bring their body and their identity into alignment.As agender people do not feel aligned with any gender, it is unlikely, though not impossible, that they will go to such lengths. However, agender still falls under the umbrella term for transgender, though the label is yours to choose.Are agender and neutrois the same thing?The use of agender is often coupled with the term neutrois, which is when a person sees themselves as neither man nor woman and has no gender to express. Though similar in definition, they are not quite the same thing. Those who identify as agender do not identify with any gender, whereas those who define as neutral feel their gender is neutral.Another viewpoint centers around sex and gender and includes gender dysphoria, which is feeling discomfort or distress when your gender doesnt align with your sex at birth. People who are agender or neutrois can experience gender dysphoria, but the lack of gender agender individuals experience may give them less anxiety. Im still a little confused how is this different than gender nonconforming, gendervoid, or genderqueer?There are a lot of identities and terms to keep up with, and its totally understandable if you have a hard time keeping everything straight (no pun intended). Heres a brief overview of other terms agender gets confused with, and what makes them a little different:Gender nonconforming: Gender nonconforming individuals reject societal expectations from gender. However, although most people who identify as agender fall under the nonconforming category, those who identify as nonconforming are not necessarily agender.Gendervoid: In terms of gendervoid, both are similar in that they are characterized by a lack of gender. However, those who identify as gendervoid describe a void that exists where their gender identity would otherwise be. Some argue that these terms are interchangeable, but it comes down to personal preference.Genderqueer: As with gender nonconformity, genderqueer includes all gender identities that differ from the gender binary. As with gendervoid, the use of the term genderqueer interchangeably with agender is totally up to you.How does asexuality fit into this?People often confuse agender and asexual, and while its understandable, it isnt accurate.This isnt as much about the debate of sex versus gender as it is about sexual attraction as a whole. People who are agender can still find sexual attraction in other people, whereas asexual people do not. Agender people can experience any type of sexual attraction toward anybody of any gender identity or expression.Additionally, asexuality doesnt have anything to do with gender identity, although individuals who identify as asexual might not identify as cisgender as frequently. They are, of course, free to identify with any gender they choose. People who are agender can also be asexual and vice versa; they just are not automatically mutually exclusive.Where did the "agender" term originate?Prior to the agender definition, a 1997 paper in the International Journal of Transgenderism stated that any individual of any genetic sex may also regard him-herself as [] an ungendered person, who does not or will not identify with any conventional gender, and formally introduced the idea of genderless people.However, the term agender didnt start gaining traction until it was mentioned in a list of valid nonbinary identities in the 2013 book Sexuality and Gender for Mental Health Professionals: A Practical Guide.In 2014, Salem X also known as Ska or their Tumblr username transrants created the flag that includes a mix of black, grey, white, and green colors. The black represents the absence of gender, the grey represents partial gender, and the green represents a gender that isnt relatable to male or female. That same year, it also became one of the 56 genders made available on Facebook, and was added to the dictionary the following year. How can I support my agender friends, or where can I learn more for myself?Regarding supporting your friends and loved ones, whether you identify as agender or not, always be careful with pronouns. If youre unsure, just ask, but be mindful about your approach so as not to offend.Also, simply holding space can sometimes do more than youll ever know.If you want to learn more for yourself or your friends and loved ones, here are a couple of great sources:Neutrois is a great go-to for anyone who thinks they may be neutrois, agender, or anything in between.The Trevor Project has is a great guide to exploring all types of identities and expressions. Genderqueer.me provides an exhaustive list of resources on gender and identity.PFLAG also has lists of books, articles, and other resources for valuable insight.