20 reasons 'straight' men hook up with guysIt's likely in this day and age that we've all hooked up with at least one "straight" man. Weve all had at least one sexual experience where weve hooked up with a self-identified straight man. They all have their reasons, from being closeted to curious to unknowingly bisexual, and we've covered 20 of the most common reasons "straight" men hook up with other guys below! 1. They're in the closetSo lets start with the most likely and obvious explanation that I was touching on in the introduction. These men are actually closeted gay or bisexual, but are too afraid of queer labels, and arent ready to admit to themselves or others that they actually arent straight.2. Because it's funI mean, gay men are all over this secret. We know that having sex with other men is incredible. Outside of it feeling good, or reaffirming any masculinity, or being dared, or anything else, the truth is, its just fun to have sex with other men. Straight men simply have the desire to see what all the fuss is about every once in a while and not all of them stay straight once theyve had a taste. 3. If it's oral, it doesn't countNot every sexual encounter needs to end in penetration, believe it or not. Sometimes, straight men mask the hook up and dismiss it as such if theres only oral contact and especially if they, themselves, just sit back and enjoy. Semanticcome into play here, and the mentality is similar to that of butt sex not counting for straight couples.4. Under the influenceSometimes sobriety is also a factor in reasons why straight men hook up with gay men. We all know what its like to have one too many drinks and wake up with someone we wouldnt have otherwise engaged with. 5. It reaffirms their straightnessIn Jane Wards Not Gay: Sex Between Straight, White Men, she explores an irony deeply-rooted in same-sex sexual encounters among straight men. She claims that a straight man having sex with other men "reaffirms their straightness" by showing that theyre comfortable with their straight sexuality, enough so to sleep with other men.6. It's not considered gay unless you bottom In some Latin American cultures, you're not considered gay if youre the dom/top/receive oral (activo). Youre only gay if youre a more feminized man who bottoms or gives blowjobs (passivo). 7. Drag queen sexI know of a few fishy queens(someone who can pass as female when in drag) who sleep with straight guys, like all the damn time. Its pretty ridiculous. Now, these queens identity as gay men (not trans women), but because they look feminine (and gorgeous) in drag, many straight men sleep with them. 8. They cant differentiate between emotional and physical intimacyMany straight men are desperate for deep, emotional connections with other men. Theyve been socialized to believe that they dont need meaningful male connections, or that if they do desire deep connections with other men theyre gay or feminine. So when they have a deep, emotional connection with another man, they can get confused by it, thinking that they, themselves, must be gay. This can lead to sex between two friends, but the truth of the matter is, theyre not physically attracted to each other; theyre just confused by their emotional intimacy with another man but because we live in a society where emotional intimacy between two straight men is so rare. Because of this, their relationship evolves into sex, when it really shouldnt have. They actually are straight and platonic friends.9. HazingWhile theres been a crackdown on hazing in many colleges, fraternities always figure out ways to get around it. Hazing is one of the most homoerotic and bizarre rituals done by straight men. Pledges, chug this bottle of Tabasco. Oh, and also suck these guys d*cks.10. CuriosityCuriosity not only kills the cat, its what gets self-identified straight men to sleep with other men. Simply put, they want to know what all the fuss is about, even though theyre not physically or emotionally attracted to other men. Theyre also comfortable enough in their straightness to know that if they explore sexually with another man once, and realize theyre not super into it, theyre not gay or bi.11. Situational circumstancesIn places where women are scarce, there are many straight men who sleep with other men. This includes all mens boarding schools, the military, and of course, prison. (Although in prison, it can often benon-consensual and an act of violence, power, and dominance.)12. Its like a fetishHaving a same-sex sexual encounter is considered taboo, gross, or deviant by so many people in the world. Because of this, having same-sex relationships can almost seem like a fetish to straight men who like doing deviant things sexually in bed. Its an extreme fetish, no doubt, by the psychological reasons for straight men sleeping with another man could be viewed as similar to the fetish of tying someone up and peeing on them. Both are viewed by the straight guy as deviant by heteronormative society.13. They're physically attracted to men, but not emotionallyMany men are physically attracted to men, but not emotionally attracted. While this could be due to internalized homophobia/biphobia (meaning that they actually are both physically and emotionally attracted to other men, they just cant admit it to themselves) this is isnt always the case. We know that physical and emotional attraction, while related, are actually two distinct entities. Even though these men are bisexual, because of their physical attraction to other men, they still view themselves as straight because theyre not emotionally attracted to other men or looking to date another guy.14. It reaffirms their masculinityAgain, in Jane Wards book, she shows that in grinning and taking it you (as a straight man) are reaffirming your manhood and masculinity. Youre proving you can overcome the physical pain of anal penetration and the grossness of orally servicing another man.15. OpportunityThis is a fact of life: It is very easy to have a casual, no strings attached, same-sex hookup. Hookup apps make it ridiculously simple, but if you, as a straight man, have too much guilt going online, you can always go the sauna at any YMCA or go to a gay bathhouse. If you are a straight man who wants to ejaculate ASAP, its easier to find a man (than a woman) who will service you right away.16. It feels goodHaving sex with a man feels damn good. We know what were doing. Were active bottoms, and since we have a penis, we know our way around one. We know what feels good and how to orally service another guy like a pornstar.17. It reaffirms your power and whitenessSo this is for white men who engage in sex with other white men. In Jane WardsNot Gay: Sex Between Straight, White Men, she discusses how masculinity and whiteness are intertwined, and then leveraged to authenticate mens' straightness by having sex with other men.18. Sexual fluiditySexuality is fluid for so many men. For some in particular, its always in flux. Its always evolving and growing as you mature. Because of this, there may be men at some points in their lives who are more sexually attracted to other men, but at other times not so much. However, they still identify themselves as straight.19. They go gay for payTimes are tough, and we all, regardless of sexuality, need to pay rent and eat. These G4P boys know this, and dont mind having some same-sex encounters as long as they get some dough for it.20. They like attentionGay men are flatterers. We whisper sweet nothings. We say how attractive you are, and we say it to all men, regardless of sexual orientation. Some straight men love the compliments, love the attention, and love the feeling of being wanted to badly, that they hook up with other guys even though theyre not necessarily attracted emotionally or physically to other men.